How can i cope up with my diabetic boyfriend?
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I love him dearly and im hurting to see him going through such a terrible disease. But i know i have to be strong for him but i want to do more to help him go through it. He’s diabetic 2 and taking shots 2x a day. Im even planning to take some nursing course just to understand his disease even better.
Thanks for all great answers…sometimes he could be so stubborn and a pain in the ass, but would never ever leave him only because he’s sick with diabetes.
yes, i’d been doing a lot of readings and research about diabetes on the internets, books, articles, doctors…but i guess, i only need some moral support from people who also undergoing this situation and you guys didnt diasppoint me. I think more than the physical aspect of diabetes I am more concern on the emotional effect such as depression…and by the way he’s also diagnosed with high readings of triglycerides. Love u all!
Monica
I love him dearly and im hurting to see him going through such a terrible disease. But i know i have to be strong for him but i want to do more to help him go through it. He’s diabetic 2 and taking shots 2x a day. Im even planning to take some nursing course just to understand his disease even better.
Thanks for all great answers…sometimes he could be so stubborn and a pain in the ass, but would never ever leave him only because he’s sick with diabetes.
yes, i’d been doing a lot of readings and research about diabetes on the internets, books, articles, doctors…but i guess, i only need some moral support from people who also undergoing this situation and you guys didnt diasppoint me. I think more than the physical aspect of diabetes I am more concern on the emotional effect such as depression…and by the way he’s also diagnosed with high readings of triglycerides. Love u all!
Monica
February 25th, 2009 at 6:26 pm
Diabetes isn’t a terrible disease. Sufferers can lead a perfectly normal life when controlled with medication. Don’t worry, you will both get used to it and there should be no problems. The problems come when people are not diagnosed.
February 27th, 2009 at 6:39 pm
Diabetes really is only as big as you make it. I recommend you support him with your silence. Don’t treat him like he’s challenged or uncapable just because he has diabetes. Let him take the shots himself, don’t act like his mom and worry about him all the time. He will be grateful that you treat him like a normal person, rather then a person with a big bad disease.
February 28th, 2009 at 5:26 pm
Taking nursing courses is a very nice proof of your love. But don’t make such a fuss about the disease too. Treat him like you would treat a non diabetic boyfriend. He will love you more for that.
March 1st, 2009 at 2:55 am
You’re already doing a great job!
March 2nd, 2009 at 9:57 pm
If you are thinking about how to COPE with him then perhaps you should find another boyfriend.
If for no other reason you will be making it possible for your future children to have diabetes.
It’s a genetic thing!!!
March 5th, 2009 at 11:20 pm
Lighten up - it’s not the end of the world. Thousands of people live comfortably with diabetes sure, it’s a pain in the a** and can kill if not treated, but as long as he watches his diet, takes his jabs and does what his doc tells him there’s no problem.
March 6th, 2009 at 12:13 am
It sounds like you care about him very much, which is a good thing, but it also sounds like he has it under control. He just has to be careful, that’s all. If he takes his medicine, then diabetes is not that big of a deal.
March 7th, 2009 at 10:36 pm
Type II diabetes can be controlled if he takes his medication religiously and also go on a diabetic diet which his doctor would have advised him. The shots that you mentioned is it insulin jabs? Its nice to hear of you being so considerate of him. He’s so blessed with such a girlfriend. Hope you will take good care of him and do make sure he keeps stricly to a diabetic diet recommended by his doctor. He should also avoid too sweet fruits like bananas, pineapples and some more sweet fruits.Apples and pears have low GIs, so they are safe for him.Get a list of fruits and foods he should avoid to keep his sugar level low from pharmacists or his doctor.May God Bless you both.
March 10th, 2009 at 1:26 pm
Going to nursing school is a nice idea, but it will be awhile before you get the training you need there to help him.
I would suggest that you do some more research on the Internet, and talk to a Diabetes specialist to get as much information as possible. There are things that you can do to be prepared to help him should the need arise, for your sake and his. For instance, should he have a sudden episode of low blood sugar–hypoglycemia, and need glucose tablets, OJ, etc. Or, a high blood sugar–hyperglycemia, and need water, insulin, or more urgently emergency response (911). GL
March 11th, 2009 at 6:13 am
Was married to a diabetic for 10 years. I can say if you’re boyfriend is on shots 2x a day it’s a bit more serious, but there’s no need to go take nursing classes. What I did…….
I went to the local hospital and spoke with a diabetic specialist nurse. She was very informative on what needed to be done durring certain circumstances. You should do that and then go to the local library or book store and get yourself some books.
Diabetes IS a big deal and you should know what to do if they become sick, but don’t treat him any differently than you would any other “boyfriend”. Just know what you need to do.
Just to start you off till you can get yourself some books. Most importantly keep yourself some orange juice, peanut butter and jam, in the house at all times. If he is having an insulin reaction he’s going to first need the orange juice and then a peanut butter and jelly sandwich. You will then need to check his blood sugar (or have him do it himself) to see where he’s at and go from there.
Fair warning! When a diabetic is having an insulin reaction they WANT FOOD and will eat until they “feel” better. The nurse explained that to me and it proved to be true. As they can (rarely) get violent, it’s not worth fighting him on it, but you’ll find in most cases, if you have the orange juice ready and you can give it to him, he’ll take it and it’ll help keep him away from the fridge. They shouldn’t eat till they feel better because then their blood sugar gets to high. In the long run the blood sugar being high is far worse than it being low.
Good luck!
March 13th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
You need to find him a nice diabetic girl, someone who can understand his condition and can see beyond it, someone who has the emotional and intellectual capacity to take care of him when needed. Then you need to leave. Quietly.
You will never understand what he’s going through. Not unless you’re diagnosed yourself.
You will never understand how wonderful a relationship built on mutual sympathy and complete understanding can be.
You will always be an outsider and an onus to him.